Muslim Weddings
A Lavish Asian Wedding in London
Can someone tell me what culture this wedding video (n0t the photo) comes from?
I know it is South Asian, but is it Pakistani, Bengali, Indian…?
This must be one the most lavish, elaborate weddings I have ever seen. Is this normal? No wonder a wedding can bankrupt some families.
Islam teaches us moderation and balance. We need to be less concerned with putting on a show that everyone will admire and remember, and more concerned with fulfilling our obligations to Allah, and starting out the marriage on a sound emotional and spiritual footing.
For that matter, imagine if all that money spent on the wedding was instead given to the new couple to help them furnish a new apartment, establish some savings, and maybe even start an education fund for their new children Insha’Allah. Wouldn’t that be so much more productive?
My Brother’s Muslim Malaysian Wedding
Amrul from Malaysia published these lovely photos of his brother’s wedding, and wrote the captions:
- My brother Muhd Luqman Hakim and his wife Nor Haniza at their wedding in Malaysia on December 21st, 2007
- From left: My mom , my sister in law, my dad and my sister Huda.
- From left: My mom, my sister in law, my dad, my brother father in law and my brother Luqman
- My brother’s best man Hilmi on the left
- Best man, groom, bride and bridesmaid
By Amrul
Marriage in Egypt: a Mass Wedding in Idku
Abeer Adel, 19, and her fiancé, Amgad Muhammad, 21, looked at engagement rings and other jewelry at a shop in Cairo. The two, who are cousins, said they planned to be engaged for four years.
In Egypt and across the Middle East, many young people are being forced to put off marriage, the gateway to independence, sexual activity and societal respect. Marriage plays an important financial role for families and the community. Often the only savings families acquire over a lifetime is the money for their children to marry, and handing it over amounts to an intergenerational transfer of wealth.
- Abeer Adel, 19, and her fiancé, Amgad Muhammad, 21, looked at engagement rings and other jewelry at a shop in Cairo. The two, who are cousins, said they planned to be engaged for four years.
- The mass weddings, like the one in Idku, are hugely festive, with couples, many in their late 30s and 40s, allowed to invite dozens of family members and friends.
- At the Idku ceremony, the couples were ferried to an open-air stadium in 75 cars donated by local people. They were greeted by a standing-room-only, roaring crowd, flashing neon lights, traditional music, the local governor and a television celebrity who served as the master of ceremonies for the event.
- Because officials are concerned about the destabilizing effect of young people being unable to afford marriage, the Egyptian government helps finance mass weddings. A government-aligned charity paid for dozens of couples to wed last fall in Idku, Egypt. Brides lined up to pick their wedding dresses.
- “Marriage and forming a family in Arab Muslim countries is a must,” said Azza Korayem, a sociologist with the National Center for Social and Criminal Studies. “Those who don’t get married, whether they are men or women, become sort of isolated.”
- Newlyweds celebrated their marriage as friends and relatives danced on a bridge over the Nile in Cairo.
- Abeer Adel, 19, and her fiancé, Amgad Muhammad, 21, looked at engagement rings and other jewelry at a shop in Cairo. The two, who are cousins, said they planned to be engaged for four years.
- At a mosque in Cairo, Amal Muhammad Hassan, 17, center, signs a marriage contract alongside her fiancé, Yasser Allam, 27, right, with the mazoun, an Islamic marriage official who acquires the signatures, registers documents and performs other tasks related to marriage.
- Brides and grooms prior to a ceremony at the mass wedding in Idku.
Cambodian Muslim Wedding of the Cham People

This is the bride and groom. She was in a very resplendent red gown while he was dressed rather simply.
SS Quah, author of a blog titled “Anything Goes”, writes:
My wife was in Cambodia for a holiday. I let her use my camera even though she had never seriously used it before. Even though I had primed her on how to use it and how to frame the subjects, I was prepared for some hilarious results.
Surprisingly, almost all the photos she took came out fine. Gee…. over the next few days, I hope to show some of the nicer and more memorable shots here.
The first picture was taken along the Mekong River. It’s such an idyllic life. People resting by the river bank and a very picturesque boat waiting to take passengers on a sunset cruise for USD4 per person. I suppose the sleeping fellow is the boat’s pilot.
- I suppose this sleeping fellow must be the boat’s pilot.
- Along the way from Phnom Penh to Siem Reap, the bus stopped by a Cham village where a wedding was in progress.
- This is the bride and groom. She was in a very resplendent red gown while he was dressed rather simply.
- The Chams are Muslims so this turned out to be a Muslim wedding. According to my wife, the food was very simple, consisting of only one dish and the whole village had turned out for the occasion.
- Life in the village was also very simple and here, young Cham children were running about and taking pleasure in seeing foreigners in their own country.
Chinese Muslim Wedding Traditions, Old and New

A Chinese Muslim bride at her wedding. Red is a traditional wedding color in many Asian countries.
Reprinted from IslamInChina.com, an excellent blog written by brother Wang Daiyu
Chinese Muslim Wedding Traditions
Since China is a very diverse country and the Muslims of China are equally diverse there is no one way to describe the wedding tradition of Chinese Muslims. It is however safe to say that just like other Muslim communities they are a blend of local cultures and Islamic religious requirements just as Arab Muslim wedding traditions are a blend of Arab culture and Islamic requirements, Malaysian wedding traditions are a blend of Malaysian culture and Islamic requirements etc.
Contacts between Muslims and Chinese began very early. Arab merchants traded in silk even before the advent of Islam, and tradition has it that the new religion was brought to their port-city trading colonies by Muslim missionaries in the seventh century.
In 755, a contingent of 4000 soldiers, mostly Muslim Turks, was sent by the Abbasid caliph Abu Jafar al-Mansur to help the Chinese emperor Su Tsung quell a revolt by one of his military commanders, An LuShan. Following the recapture of the imperial capital, Ch’angan (today’s Xian), these soldiers settled in China, married Chinese wives and founded inland Muslim colonies similar to those established by the traders on the coast.
Since then Islam has continued to flourish in China. There are several different communities and ethnicities of Chinese Muslims.

A Hui Chinese Muslim Woman in Jianshui, China
A Chinese Muslim wedding is very complex, but it avoids all superstitions such as the reading of the horoscopes of the betrothed persons. Some ask the Ahund to read the Arabic wedding rite on the wedding day or the day before. If one of the parties is not a Muslim, the Ahund admits that one into Islam one or two days before the wedding so both may be of the same faith.
In the past, betrothal money was not taken seriously since it looked like a business transaction. Nowadays it is customary to give clothing or jewelry, or a small amount of money is given and looked upon as only a symbol. Marriage is based on love. This change should be introduced to other Islamic countries as a means of solving the problem of the decrease in marriage due to the heavy betrothal price.
The old type of Chinese wedding ceremony is now out of date except among poor people in the country. According to the old custom the parents of the concerned parties monopolized the whole affair.
The new type follows the teaching of Islam and gains the consent of both parties. Islamic wedding customs are rational and at the same time are timeless, for they follow rules laid down more than thirteen hundred years ago. Emphasis on agreement between both parties, especially the consent of the girl, shows the Islamic stress on the rights of men and the protection of the rights of womanhood.
The ceremonies of engagement and marriage are quite similar for Chinese Muslims and non-Muslims except that the Muslims celebrate the event with a religious and a general ceremony, and they do not use old Chinese music or gongs or fire crackers since they consider them to be superstitious.
The religious ceremony is held a day before or just preceding the general ceremony. At present Muslims hold the marriage ceremony in the mosque. In modern times Western music has been adopted for marriages since it is not associated with the worship of other gods.
Chinese Muslims obey the Civil Law of China by practicing monogamy almost everywhere except in the frontier provinces. There is no Muslim court to take care of divorce, adoption, and inheritance, as in other Muslim countries; all these matters are now handled in the general courts.
Mass Dawoodi Bohra Wedding in Mumbai

Many of the brides couldn't hide their happiness - Fatima, 20, was one.
I just came across these photos that the BBC news online published back in 2003 when this wedding took place. The photos depict a mass wedding held in Mumbai, in which 500 Bohra Muslim couples were married all at once.
The Dawoodi Bohras (Arabic: داؤدی بوہرہ, Hindi: दवूदि बोह्रा) are a subsect of the Isma’ili Shi’ahs. They are based in India, although the Dawoodi Bohra school of thought originates from Yemen. Today, there are close to 1 million Dawoodi Bohras worldwide. Dawoodi Bohras have a unique blend of cultures, including Yemeni, Egyptian, African, and Indian.
As Isma’ilis, the beliefs of Dawoodi Bohras differ from those of mainstream Islam, in some cases drastically.
It cannot be argued, however, that the Dawoodi Bohras have a unique sense of style. The men wear a traditional white three-piece outfit, plus a white and gold cap (called a topi), and women wear the rida, a distinctive form of the burqa which is distinguished from other types of hijab by often being in colour and decorated with patterns and lace. Young girls wear a simple two-piece suit with a collar and shalwaar called a Jabloo Izaar. They wear this with a girl’s topi, decorated with sequins and sometimes lace.
I like this idea of a mass wedding. I think that more Muslim communities should try it; rather than burdening themselves with lavish weddings in hotel ballrooms for a single couple. And it’s a way of creating bonds within the community.
I’m sure it was a fun and exciting day for the couples involved.
- More than 500 couples from the Dawoodi Bohra Muslim community have taken part in a mass wedding in Bombay (Mumbai).
- The event marked 50 years of mass weddings in the community in India, where most Bohra Muslims live.
- Many came on horseback, others chose elephants or carriages.
- The grooms were led in by a band wearing kilts, a legacy of Scottish soldiers sent to India during the British Raj.
- Many of the brides couldn’t hide their happiness – Fatima, 20, was one.
- Another bride was ecstatic her wedding day had come at last.
- Marrying en masse helps poorer families save money – and busy couples save time.
- The grooms and brides were kept apart until the main ceremony, or “Nikah”, was over.
- There are about a million Dawoodi Bohra Muslims in the world – Bombay has the largest community.
- They received the blessing of the community’s 92-year-old spiritual leader, Syedna Burhanuddin.
- Most of those taking part were local, but some came from abroad.
- Bohra Muslims are renowned as traders and businessmen – grooms were making business calls minutes before they married.
Wazwan, the soul of Kashmiri Muslim Weddings

Several Kashmiri wazwan dishes being prepared
The Wonders of Wazwan
An elaborate, overwhelmingly generous meal, wazwan is the soul of Kashmiri Muslim weddings

One type of Kashmiri wazwan
by Shonaly Muthalaly
Reprinted from TheHindu.com
Singing and spinach make for a charming, if unlikely, combination.
It’s a bracingly cool morning in Srinagar, where we’re attending a friend’s wedding. We’re cross-legged on the lawn helping her aunts and grand-aunt de-stalk crackly-fresh spinach leaves for the wedding lunch. As the community unites, from different parts of the country or city — which involves braving bandhs, curfews and random stone-pelting — to celebrate, preparations to feed about a thousand people are already in full swing.

Preparing wazwan for a Kashmiri wedding
The women sit in a circle singing beguiling folk songs, steadily working their way through baskets piled high with the leaves. All the while, a kahwa lady hands out cup after cup of the soothing sweet green tea, fragrant with saffron, spiced with cardamom and afloat with crisp almond slivers, from a silver samovar, which bubbles ceaselessly through the three-day-wedding thanks to cleverly concealed cavities holding glowing charcoal. Beside it, there’s a basket of tandoor-baked soft Kashmiri bread from down the road for breakfast. It’s necessarily light. After all, everyone’s gearing up for wazwan — an elaborate, formal, overwhelmingly generous meal integral to Kashmiri Muslim weddings.
A huge tent has been set up next door to the house for the preparation of this meal, which is served for lunch and dinner through the wedding and features anything from 20 to 44 different courses — most of them meat, mainly mutton. The mathematics is precise and has to be adhered to, following tradition. Shahid Mir, brother of the bride Shaila, explains it, as he walks us around the quaint kitchen-tent, which bustles with activity — hoards of oversized furiously bubbling pots, crackling wood-fires and about ten cooks preparing the meal with the kind of regimental precision, poise and co-ordination that can only come from having done this hundreds of times before.

A wedding meal may have anywhere from 24 to 40 courses!
“For thousand people, they use 120 goats,” he says, “and about 1,100 chickens.” Wazwan is served in huge plates, each of which is shared by four people. “Every plate holds around 4 to 5 kilos of meat.” The brilliance of the cook really comes into play here, because every dish tastes distinctly different. Like the conductor of an orchestra, the head cook directs and guides the team. With minimal talk, responsibilities are divided. One group cuts the meat, ensuring it’s halal. The next lot sits in a row, pounding endlessly to tenderise it. The steady thud’s rhythm is surprisingly cohesive with the folk songs, also sung through the wedding. Another group does the blending, boiling and frying.
With 24 courses on the day of the wedding, this is — of course – far more than most people can comfortably eat. However following long-established protocol handed down through generations, Kashmiri families ensure that there’s no reduction whatsoever in the amount of food served.
After we grapple helplessly with a couple meals, wasting embarrassing quantities, Shahid’s mom Shamima explains the mystery of how the rest of the wedding guests seem to be clearing their plates. It’s a delightfully practical solution. To really enjoy the nuances and flavours of every course, guests are equipped with bags, so they just pack up the excess food and take it home.
As the tempting scents of smoky kebabs, spice-laden curries and smoking-hot ghee begin to weave their way across the garden, we sit down for

A spread of Kashmiri wazwan dishes
our first wazwan experience. The boys in the family do all the carrying and serving, so one of the cousins sets down the tash-t-nari, a quaint silver basin accompanied by a jug straight out of Arabian nights so we can wash our hands. Then comes the plate, piled high with rice, topped with a dash of cooked spinach curry and a dense, meaty gravy made with lamb liver, kidney and intestines.
Then, the wazwan starts moving faster. Scalding chicken red curry served with a huge ladle is carefully poured on the rice, along with a huge meaty piece of chicken for each of the four people sitting around the plate.
Then come the tender sheek kebabs. Rogan josh, fiery with red Kashmiri chillies. The delicious tabak maz, which are flat rib cuts cooked in spiced milk and then fried in pure ghee till they’re dark and crackling. Delectably spongy paneer in a rich tomato sauce. Gushtaba, soft mutton meatballs cooked in a gravy of fresh curd, end the meal.
Not surprisingly we loll about like pythons once we’re done. More kawah. More singing. The thudding from the tent begins again. After all, there’s wazwan for dinner.
Two Malaysian Muslim Weddings

Bride and groom with the cake. (Editor's note: the fellow on the left is Tom)
The photos are by Tom, a European fellow living in Malaysia, from his Southeast Asia travel blog at http://studioplum.be/travelblog/
The photo captions are Tom’s. Click on the thumbnails below to see the full photos.
Two Malaysian Muslim Weddings: One in Perlis and One in Kuala Lumpur:
- A Muslim wedding in Perlis, Malaysia. Ain, Akma, Leilah the bride, Miza, Zira and euhmm Zira’s twin?
- Perlis wedding: The official Islamic ritual… groom gets his ‘commandments’ before he gets to see the bride. Meanwhile I was struggling with a worm that had gotten into in my pants. haha.
- Perlis wedding: Being a single guy, I felt kinda weird there however. See why?
- Perlis wedding: The official kiss. I slept later that night in that corner. Glad that worm didn’t came after me again.
- Kuala Lumpur wedding: Bride and groom with the cake. (Editor’s note: the fellow on the left is Tom)
- Kuala Lumpur: The women at the wedding
- Kuala Lumpur: Men at the wedding playing drums and singing
Muslim Wedding in England: One Photo
One photo only of a Muslim wedding in England, from hydrus.pl:

Muslim wedding in England
Muslim Wedding in Conakry, Capital of Guinea, West Africa

Conakry or Konakry (Malinké: Kɔnakiri) is the capital and largest city of Guinea. The city is a port on the Atlantic Ocean. It has a population of about two million. Guinea used to be part of the Songhai Empire until 1591, and then a subsequent Islamic state in the 18th century that brought stability and prosperity to the region. Around the same time Fulani Muslims immigrated to Guinea. The capital city, Conakry, was founded under French rule in 1890. Today Guinea has 24 ethnic groups, of which the Fulani form 40%. The population is 85% Muslim.

Here we see a wedding in the city of Conakry. These photos were posted on Picasa by Chantal:
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A Lavish Asian Wedding in London
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My Brother’s Muslim Malaysian Wedding
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Marriage in Egypt: a Mass Wedding in Idku
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Cambodian Muslim Wedding of the Cham People
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Chinese Muslim Wedding Traditions, Old and New
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Mass Dawoodi Bohra Wedding in Mumbai
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Pakistani Weddings: Marriage Customs and Traditions (Part 1) -Maniyaan & Dholki
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Wazwan, the soul of Kashmiri Muslim Weddings
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Two Malaysian Muslim Weddings
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Muslim Wedding in England: One Photo
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Muslim Wedding in Conakry, Capital of Guinea, West Africa

















































